Even though I woke in a great mood and everything flowed for me this morning I felt like I was struggling. I felt like I was being pushed instead of being allowed to enjoy a slower pace. As I got to my studio this morning the feeling intensified. It was as if life all around me was in a different time zone. So I decided to draw a card this morning.
Mem was the card I drew which is interesting with all the rain we've been getting. Of course Mem is the card of purification = 40. And it's also the 13th letter of the Hebrew Alphe Beit, which represents female power.
What I thought was really interesting is how this letter is requesting us to allow our tears to flow, to tap into our emotions. Mem is letting us know that through our emotions we are cleansing ourselves and renewing all at the same time. Mem reminds us that if we block these emotions that our heart turns to stone. Mem is asking us to look deeper, beyond the surface, to "restore life to the kingdom".
The shadow of Mem is when we use destructive and hurtful passion against ourselves and others. We literally are learning to swim among our emotions while learning not to drown. Destructive passion is a very dark and a scary shadow. It's that passion that never allows us that true relationship. It's that passion that keeps us held in an illusion that someone else is controlling us, but it really about us trying to control our own emotional flood gate.
Mem is asking us to look where we are seeing others controlling us and allowing ourselves the freedom and right to explore our own feelings of why are we controlling our own emotions. Is it because we will be viewed week, insecure, vulnerable or better yet a sissy? It is the female is allowed to cry, boys aren't suppose to. But it is that kind of thinking that is keeping us separated from a world of peace, joy and love. It is through our own washing of our tears that literally frees the heart.
Experience your tears of joy today and allow the feelings of sadness to arise within you to allow them to carry away what no longer serves you, but rather brings you to a new ocean front of dreams, hopes and prosperity.
Awareness opens the possibility for Alignment and the Willingness to Release. Free yourself of illusions within YOUR reality. What are you creating that makes you feel disempowered?
Monday, December 5, 2011
Friday, December 2, 2011
"Secure the Ladder"
As I was driving back from lunch today I noticed a young lady shaking the ladder to make sure that it was secure. It appeared as though they were getting ready to hang Christmas lights. It was then that I had to thank God for the beautiful message I was receiving in that very moment.
You see, we all need to make sure our ladder is secure as we begin to ascend. God was letting me know that I was using the right amount of care and caution as I continue on my journey up the ladder.
It was even more beautiful to see all the road work being done on the way home. There was a moment that the shadow wanted to raise its head and complain, but instead I thank it for allowing me to see where I was hiding power. So as I drove down this messy road I knew that I was paving a new way, renewing myself and my path to home. It was then that the traffic cleared for me to proceed with joy in my heart.
Folks, this process isn't hard. What's hard about it is when you don't want to see what you are seeing. But to welcome whatever is happening and realizing there is light in it you will free yourself. There is no angry person out there only you.
This is all taking place after processing last night how I have tried to ignore my female side. The side of me that is creative, loving and joyful...the part of me that is healing. Remember being a kid and getting sick? All I ever wanted to do was to crawl up in my moms bed and lay there. It was when I accepted this fact that it is the female side of me that is powerful in briging forth the creations of my mind that all flowed with ease and joy.
I had to look at why I would hide my female side, what was it about me that I didn't like regarding that part? Then it happened....I could see where I was hiding out because I wanted everyone to see me strong, confident, secure, but deep down inside I was just a scared child wanting to find her way back home. I wanted my mother!
Being a mother and a grandmother and the two best things in the world. There is always so much more love to give and receive, and there we have it. The female part of us is the part that receives. As I sat thinking about this I realized that the only time that I would allow myself to receive is when I was ill. What a hard lesson to learn in life, that the only time we allow ourselves to receive is when we are out of all options for ourselves, and can't do anything else but surrender.
I want to experiencing receiving before having to surrender, but there is something I must surrender in order to obtain this level of awareness. I needed to surrender to the ideas that I had built walls of separation with.
Giving is easy for most of us because we are taught that it is better to give than receive. I say this was a shadow statement to keep us in the dark. Either way it's extremely important to receive....otherwise we are blocking God in allowing what we desire to move into our lives.
Can you imagine how much energy it much take to block Gods gifts?
Something to think about today. Ask yourself where are you giving in order to keep from receiving.
Much love and light to you all!
Love, Dr. Velvete
You see, we all need to make sure our ladder is secure as we begin to ascend. God was letting me know that I was using the right amount of care and caution as I continue on my journey up the ladder.
It was even more beautiful to see all the road work being done on the way home. There was a moment that the shadow wanted to raise its head and complain, but instead I thank it for allowing me to see where I was hiding power. So as I drove down this messy road I knew that I was paving a new way, renewing myself and my path to home. It was then that the traffic cleared for me to proceed with joy in my heart.
Folks, this process isn't hard. What's hard about it is when you don't want to see what you are seeing. But to welcome whatever is happening and realizing there is light in it you will free yourself. There is no angry person out there only you.
This is all taking place after processing last night how I have tried to ignore my female side. The side of me that is creative, loving and joyful...the part of me that is healing. Remember being a kid and getting sick? All I ever wanted to do was to crawl up in my moms bed and lay there. It was when I accepted this fact that it is the female side of me that is powerful in briging forth the creations of my mind that all flowed with ease and joy.
I had to look at why I would hide my female side, what was it about me that I didn't like regarding that part? Then it happened....I could see where I was hiding out because I wanted everyone to see me strong, confident, secure, but deep down inside I was just a scared child wanting to find her way back home. I wanted my mother!
Being a mother and a grandmother and the two best things in the world. There is always so much more love to give and receive, and there we have it. The female part of us is the part that receives. As I sat thinking about this I realized that the only time that I would allow myself to receive is when I was ill. What a hard lesson to learn in life, that the only time we allow ourselves to receive is when we are out of all options for ourselves, and can't do anything else but surrender.
I want to experiencing receiving before having to surrender, but there is something I must surrender in order to obtain this level of awareness. I needed to surrender to the ideas that I had built walls of separation with.
Giving is easy for most of us because we are taught that it is better to give than receive. I say this was a shadow statement to keep us in the dark. Either way it's extremely important to receive....otherwise we are blocking God in allowing what we desire to move into our lives.
Can you imagine how much energy it much take to block Gods gifts?
Something to think about today. Ask yourself where are you giving in order to keep from receiving.
Much love and light to you all!
Love, Dr. Velvete
Thursday, December 1, 2011
Fresh Air
Taking a deep breath in first thing in the morning is not only invigorating but also exciting as I look around to see all the beauty. I have made it a habit now to go outside first thing and take a huge breath in. I can feel it all the way to my core.
As this cleansing from the night takes place in my lungs and in my body and I can feel the connection with earth and the gratitude that extends in my heart. I know immediately that the world is being reflected outside from my inside. I appreciate the visual and start my day with gratitude and light.
When we understand and acknowledge that our world is not out there but rather in here, within each of us we are more gentle and kind with ourselves, within each relationship, and within the relationship we offer up to ourselves.
The best way to heal what is inside that we have tucked away within the shadow is to take a closer look at how we are feeling. If we are not feeling then we are not living we are hiding. How will you know what joy feels like if you don't allow yourself to experience the saddness that lerks within waiting to separate you from all joy?
Becoming arrogant and a know it all is not spiritual alignment but truly a misalignment of who is in charge. What do you offer that is original, what is your gift, what is your light that you shine to the world each and everyday? That is where you are giving the most to yourself.
Fresh air isn't about going outside and pretending to take a breath in and then saying, "Oh, I need to make sure so and so is doing this or that." That's projecting the negative breath into the world of illusion. How many of us take that breath in and feel so over inflated that we don't even recognize what it is that we need to do or work on.
Are you all about telling others what is right for them without realizing they are already showing you what is right with you and where you are hiding out? Here is where we keep our mouths shut and listen. And listening allows those emotions to come to the surface we may not like so much, but worth the dealing of them.
So take a deep breath and breathe in the life, light and love that you are and feel inner peace and allow it to come to the surface of your world.
Enjoy!
As this cleansing from the night takes place in my lungs and in my body and I can feel the connection with earth and the gratitude that extends in my heart. I know immediately that the world is being reflected outside from my inside. I appreciate the visual and start my day with gratitude and light.
When we understand and acknowledge that our world is not out there but rather in here, within each of us we are more gentle and kind with ourselves, within each relationship, and within the relationship we offer up to ourselves.
The best way to heal what is inside that we have tucked away within the shadow is to take a closer look at how we are feeling. If we are not feeling then we are not living we are hiding. How will you know what joy feels like if you don't allow yourself to experience the saddness that lerks within waiting to separate you from all joy?
Becoming arrogant and a know it all is not spiritual alignment but truly a misalignment of who is in charge. What do you offer that is original, what is your gift, what is your light that you shine to the world each and everyday? That is where you are giving the most to yourself.
Fresh air isn't about going outside and pretending to take a breath in and then saying, "Oh, I need to make sure so and so is doing this or that." That's projecting the negative breath into the world of illusion. How many of us take that breath in and feel so over inflated that we don't even recognize what it is that we need to do or work on.
Are you all about telling others what is right for them without realizing they are already showing you what is right with you and where you are hiding out? Here is where we keep our mouths shut and listen. And listening allows those emotions to come to the surface we may not like so much, but worth the dealing of them.
So take a deep breath and breathe in the life, light and love that you are and feel inner peace and allow it to come to the surface of your world.
Enjoy!
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
The Affair
An affair can be very difficult for a family to handle, but truly an affair can bring much healing and rewards as well. However, the idea of betrayal must be resolved first and foremost. We will visit both sides of the equation and hopefully someone reading this will find peace and comfort.
First, let's take the person having the affair. And we need to make sure we are very clear here that an affair is any form of admiration that is beyond a normal boundary. This can include emotional, mental, spiritual as well as physical. A person that has an affair with food is experiencing some form of imbalance within one or more of these realms. A person can have an affair with TV....women or men that sit and watch soap operas all day long are thinking this kind of affair is okay because everyone else is doing it to. Just because everyone else is doing it doesn't mean it's right.
Okay, now that we have clarity on the types of affairs let's look at what would make a person do such a thing. The first questions is always, "What are they running away from?" It's easy to see how people get addicted to soap operas because it paints a picture so totally different then the current reality or world outside that TV box. Food is the same way....as long as there is comfort in food we can run towards that and forget about our issues. The same is true for an individual having an affair, infatuation, or another other kind of illusion with another person, they are running from themselves.
NO affair will ever bring us to the point of healing the inner us.
Many start affairs because they see a quality in another person that they like and it makes them excited, it brings life to their being or it makes them forget their pain (at least for now). But watch out for the shadow because it will always have you chasing after another person to make you believe that feeling is coming from outside of you rather than inside.
When I was just 17 years old I thought I was so deeply in love because all my creative juices were flowing. I wrote music, I painted like no ones business, and I could write stories for hours, but it wasn't because I was in love with another but rather felt my higher self for the very first time ever. If I could have held on to that moment in time there is no telling where I'd be right now, but what happened instead is I put all that creativity and self into another person. I felt that this "person" made me complete.
What kind of person needs to experience that? Well from my experience one that lived a life of not knowing who she was. Always being told what to do made me feel lost and confused. But then I was older and "I should know better", but how was I to know or do that when I had not been able to experience anything other than what was requested of me?
I didn't know my own power!
When we are looking to have an affair we are looking to replace something that we've lost or hidden from ourselves, whether with food, TV, or relationships, it's all the same...POWER! The emotional affairs are probably the most damaging because they become the most fearful the quickest. They are the affairs that leave you talking for hours only to lead to more talking later. It's empty and you don't even know it until it's over.
Okay, so now let's look at how this damages the people around us. Many would say that it doesn't as long as you don't let them know. I say this is false. But we need to look at the deeper picture and turn it around. Why would a person have an affair against us? What is it that we are projecting?
We are projecting many things such as not being good enough, don't have the time to get involve or devoted to this relationship. But mainly we are not caring about ourselves. We don't accept our power so much that we are giving it away. We allow someone else to do something that we are not happy with but allow it to continue because we are unwilling or unable to accept our power. So what kind of person does it take to stay in a relationship like this?
A person that is scared, hurt, confused, conflicted and even addicted themselves. Yes, addicted! Why do I say that? Because as long as you are addicted to the illusion the illusion is being fueled by YOU! To stop the affair means that we ourselves must stop having the affair. We need to look deep within our lives and see what kind of affair we are having. If we are having an affair with our ego then the shadow will grow and we will become lost, lonely and desperate. However, there is always light waiting to shine forth.
When we take responsibility for what is being shown to us through either having an affair or being the opposite then we can reclaim our power and move into the light. If you are the one the affair is happening against then you seriously need to ask yourself what are you not paying attention to, where are you giving up on yourself, where are you allowing the ego to guide you.
For those that have had spouses have affairs on them and think they saved their marriage can live this hateful, bitter life from now on not living at all. They simply have put themselves into the darkness to live there forever, only to become more bitter and more demanding. Still seeing life as out to get them rather than how they created it. But isn't that so much easier for most of us, to blame others?
An emotional affair can be much trickier because there is a willingness to surrender power, the other person receiving the power and then the spouse that is blind to it all losing power. What happens in this kind of affair is there are now 2 people surrendering power to a fool that doesn't know what the hell to do with it once s/he has it all. Before you know it both spouses are shaking their heads saying what the heck.
But again what kind of person does it take to be in this kind of relationship. Doesn't matter who it is in this relationship because it's basically the same all the way around, FEAR! Fear of commitment, fear of what if, fear of letting go, fear of facing the issue and solving it right where it is. Let's sweep it under the rug and pretend it never happened never solves the power shortage. The person having this kind of affair and denying it will lose the most power of all. Denying feelings is a sure way to keep yourself within the grasp of the shadow/ego.
So how do we allow an affair to heal us and bring us into the light? Look at what type of affair you are having, ask yourself how does it make you feel while in the moment, such as eating a dozen donuts, then ask yourself how do I feel afterwards and then you have to be honest with yourself to see where you are afraid and have given away your power.
Where are you giving your power away? This is an easy thing to do even when the idea of an affair enters you brain. Just stop, look and listen.
No, hubby and I are great. But years of affairs with other things and witnessing others struggling with their own addictions has allowed me to open up an write this. Remember affairs are more than just sexual, we can even have an affair with money. Anytime that we are doing something that we feel we are doing in secrecy and it's giving us a temporary boost in power we are in an affair and losing power to the shadow.
Please enjoy!
Dr. Velvete
First, let's take the person having the affair. And we need to make sure we are very clear here that an affair is any form of admiration that is beyond a normal boundary. This can include emotional, mental, spiritual as well as physical. A person that has an affair with food is experiencing some form of imbalance within one or more of these realms. A person can have an affair with TV....women or men that sit and watch soap operas all day long are thinking this kind of affair is okay because everyone else is doing it to. Just because everyone else is doing it doesn't mean it's right.
Okay, now that we have clarity on the types of affairs let's look at what would make a person do such a thing. The first questions is always, "What are they running away from?" It's easy to see how people get addicted to soap operas because it paints a picture so totally different then the current reality or world outside that TV box. Food is the same way....as long as there is comfort in food we can run towards that and forget about our issues. The same is true for an individual having an affair, infatuation, or another other kind of illusion with another person, they are running from themselves.
NO affair will ever bring us to the point of healing the inner us.
Many start affairs because they see a quality in another person that they like and it makes them excited, it brings life to their being or it makes them forget their pain (at least for now). But watch out for the shadow because it will always have you chasing after another person to make you believe that feeling is coming from outside of you rather than inside.
When I was just 17 years old I thought I was so deeply in love because all my creative juices were flowing. I wrote music, I painted like no ones business, and I could write stories for hours, but it wasn't because I was in love with another but rather felt my higher self for the very first time ever. If I could have held on to that moment in time there is no telling where I'd be right now, but what happened instead is I put all that creativity and self into another person. I felt that this "person" made me complete.
What kind of person needs to experience that? Well from my experience one that lived a life of not knowing who she was. Always being told what to do made me feel lost and confused. But then I was older and "I should know better", but how was I to know or do that when I had not been able to experience anything other than what was requested of me?
I didn't know my own power!
When we are looking to have an affair we are looking to replace something that we've lost or hidden from ourselves, whether with food, TV, or relationships, it's all the same...POWER! The emotional affairs are probably the most damaging because they become the most fearful the quickest. They are the affairs that leave you talking for hours only to lead to more talking later. It's empty and you don't even know it until it's over.
Okay, so now let's look at how this damages the people around us. Many would say that it doesn't as long as you don't let them know. I say this is false. But we need to look at the deeper picture and turn it around. Why would a person have an affair against us? What is it that we are projecting?
We are projecting many things such as not being good enough, don't have the time to get involve or devoted to this relationship. But mainly we are not caring about ourselves. We don't accept our power so much that we are giving it away. We allow someone else to do something that we are not happy with but allow it to continue because we are unwilling or unable to accept our power. So what kind of person does it take to stay in a relationship like this?
A person that is scared, hurt, confused, conflicted and even addicted themselves. Yes, addicted! Why do I say that? Because as long as you are addicted to the illusion the illusion is being fueled by YOU! To stop the affair means that we ourselves must stop having the affair. We need to look deep within our lives and see what kind of affair we are having. If we are having an affair with our ego then the shadow will grow and we will become lost, lonely and desperate. However, there is always light waiting to shine forth.
When we take responsibility for what is being shown to us through either having an affair or being the opposite then we can reclaim our power and move into the light. If you are the one the affair is happening against then you seriously need to ask yourself what are you not paying attention to, where are you giving up on yourself, where are you allowing the ego to guide you.
For those that have had spouses have affairs on them and think they saved their marriage can live this hateful, bitter life from now on not living at all. They simply have put themselves into the darkness to live there forever, only to become more bitter and more demanding. Still seeing life as out to get them rather than how they created it. But isn't that so much easier for most of us, to blame others?
An emotional affair can be much trickier because there is a willingness to surrender power, the other person receiving the power and then the spouse that is blind to it all losing power. What happens in this kind of affair is there are now 2 people surrendering power to a fool that doesn't know what the hell to do with it once s/he has it all. Before you know it both spouses are shaking their heads saying what the heck.
But again what kind of person does it take to be in this kind of relationship. Doesn't matter who it is in this relationship because it's basically the same all the way around, FEAR! Fear of commitment, fear of what if, fear of letting go, fear of facing the issue and solving it right where it is. Let's sweep it under the rug and pretend it never happened never solves the power shortage. The person having this kind of affair and denying it will lose the most power of all. Denying feelings is a sure way to keep yourself within the grasp of the shadow/ego.
So how do we allow an affair to heal us and bring us into the light? Look at what type of affair you are having, ask yourself how does it make you feel while in the moment, such as eating a dozen donuts, then ask yourself how do I feel afterwards and then you have to be honest with yourself to see where you are afraid and have given away your power.
Where are you giving your power away? This is an easy thing to do even when the idea of an affair enters you brain. Just stop, look and listen.
No, hubby and I are great. But years of affairs with other things and witnessing others struggling with their own addictions has allowed me to open up an write this. Remember affairs are more than just sexual, we can even have an affair with money. Anytime that we are doing something that we feel we are doing in secrecy and it's giving us a temporary boost in power we are in an affair and losing power to the shadow.
Please enjoy!
Dr. Velvete
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
The Shadow
There are moments in our lives that we feel that we have defeated the ego/shadow and are on the road to a complete recovery. But as we look around we suddenly find ourselves being faced with drama from others and we quickly want to heal them, and stop healing ourselves.
One of the biggest shadow games is trying to defeat fear. Of course we are all learning about fear, but when we are doing something and fear is gripping us it is within that moment that we can find the blessing of what we are running from, towards, or hiding. If we are driving around and getting lost and are fearful while seeing a friend that is suppose to be in secret we can find ourselves gripped with so much fear that we go numb. Having an affair and experiencing the adrenaline rush from secrecy is not overcoming the shadow, but rather hiding deeper within the illusion.
Whenever when we fall out of integrity we can fee this through our body. There is a big difference between peace and confusion.
It has become easier for me to do this process that it was even two years ago. Much of this is due to my dedication to the process, my willingness to let things go (even when others want me to hang on) and my ability to witness myself.
The easiest way for me to process myself now is if I hear the words, "You know you should...." or "You know you are creating this". It's in that very moment that I stop and realize that I'm speaking to myself and discover where my light is being hidden within the witnessing of this world.
Ego/shadow is so prideful. It wants us to feel that "WE" are doing something all the time, that it's all our ability to know. We don't know crap, if we did we'd all be living in a world of total peace, joy and love. But the reality of it is there is still struggles in our world. When you through yourself in a job that is constantly about judging, disagreements, and arguing then you are doing all of these things to and with yourself.
A person that is constantly at battle with city hall because the government appears to be taking money from the people needs to look at what they are fighting against in order to better understand their own shadow. If a person takes money from a company or government body usually feels they deserve more than what they are currently getting. What kind of person or what would have had to happen to an individual to make them think they are more deserving than their share?
All we have to do is look at the people in government we DON'T like and there we are. All we have to do is look at our current friends to see what we hate or dislike about them and there we are. All we have to do is look at what we don't like about religion or organized religion and there we are. You see....it's so easy for spiritual people to say there is no one else out there as long as they aren't letting themselves in on that secret.
The shadow is a must, we can't throw it away for it is a part of us that helps us to find and continue to seek the light within us. It is what allows us to see this light for without it we are not seeing the contrast, the game in which we have chosen to play.
The shadow hides our golden nuggets deep within the rivers of our souls. It is up to us to go panning for gold or just be upset because everyone else has what we don't or can't seem to find. We can all find it!!!
We went crystal hunting one weekend and my girl friend found her a spot. She knew there was something in that hill she was digging in. The other friend told her she was wasting her time as he continued to just look down on the ground to pick okay crystals up. Suddenly you can hear her screaming and she came over to me with this huge, perfectly shaped crystal. It surely was a find. I told her in that very moment that life was going to getting really good for her. She asked me why did I say that and I replied, "Because you were willing to stay on that hill knowing that there was a treasure to find even when everyone else thought you were silly." Well, it wasn't long after that she found the man of her dreams and is so blessed in so many ways. Not just because of the crystal but because of her willingness to dig.
You see, we all must be willing to dig. Some of us look on the surface and judge what is good and not, throwing stuff away. Then there are those like me that save every nugget I and cherished it as if it were gold. I had a bunch of crystals but to one friend they weren't worth saving. Hum! Interesting when I write it like that, huh?
The point here is sometimes we have to go beyond what we see and dig into what we feel. If we are unable to feel then all we will be doing is discarding treasures that are laying on the surface.
Hopefully you will find that the shadow is not something to just throw away but love and cherish as your greatest gift. Not to become the shadow or hidden by it, but rather becoming free and seeing the light in which it brings forth upon welcoming its message.
One of the biggest shadow games is trying to defeat fear. Of course we are all learning about fear, but when we are doing something and fear is gripping us it is within that moment that we can find the blessing of what we are running from, towards, or hiding. If we are driving around and getting lost and are fearful while seeing a friend that is suppose to be in secret we can find ourselves gripped with so much fear that we go numb. Having an affair and experiencing the adrenaline rush from secrecy is not overcoming the shadow, but rather hiding deeper within the illusion.
Whenever when we fall out of integrity we can fee this through our body. There is a big difference between peace and confusion.
It has become easier for me to do this process that it was even two years ago. Much of this is due to my dedication to the process, my willingness to let things go (even when others want me to hang on) and my ability to witness myself.
The easiest way for me to process myself now is if I hear the words, "You know you should...." or "You know you are creating this". It's in that very moment that I stop and realize that I'm speaking to myself and discover where my light is being hidden within the witnessing of this world.
Ego/shadow is so prideful. It wants us to feel that "WE" are doing something all the time, that it's all our ability to know. We don't know crap, if we did we'd all be living in a world of total peace, joy and love. But the reality of it is there is still struggles in our world. When you through yourself in a job that is constantly about judging, disagreements, and arguing then you are doing all of these things to and with yourself.
A person that is constantly at battle with city hall because the government appears to be taking money from the people needs to look at what they are fighting against in order to better understand their own shadow. If a person takes money from a company or government body usually feels they deserve more than what they are currently getting. What kind of person or what would have had to happen to an individual to make them think they are more deserving than their share?
All we have to do is look at the people in government we DON'T like and there we are. All we have to do is look at our current friends to see what we hate or dislike about them and there we are. All we have to do is look at what we don't like about religion or organized religion and there we are. You see....it's so easy for spiritual people to say there is no one else out there as long as they aren't letting themselves in on that secret.
The shadow is a must, we can't throw it away for it is a part of us that helps us to find and continue to seek the light within us. It is what allows us to see this light for without it we are not seeing the contrast, the game in which we have chosen to play.
The shadow hides our golden nuggets deep within the rivers of our souls. It is up to us to go panning for gold or just be upset because everyone else has what we don't or can't seem to find. We can all find it!!!
We went crystal hunting one weekend and my girl friend found her a spot. She knew there was something in that hill she was digging in. The other friend told her she was wasting her time as he continued to just look down on the ground to pick okay crystals up. Suddenly you can hear her screaming and she came over to me with this huge, perfectly shaped crystal. It surely was a find. I told her in that very moment that life was going to getting really good for her. She asked me why did I say that and I replied, "Because you were willing to stay on that hill knowing that there was a treasure to find even when everyone else thought you were silly." Well, it wasn't long after that she found the man of her dreams and is so blessed in so many ways. Not just because of the crystal but because of her willingness to dig.
You see, we all must be willing to dig. Some of us look on the surface and judge what is good and not, throwing stuff away. Then there are those like me that save every nugget I and cherished it as if it were gold. I had a bunch of crystals but to one friend they weren't worth saving. Hum! Interesting when I write it like that, huh?
The point here is sometimes we have to go beyond what we see and dig into what we feel. If we are unable to feel then all we will be doing is discarding treasures that are laying on the surface.
Hopefully you will find that the shadow is not something to just throw away but love and cherish as your greatest gift. Not to become the shadow or hidden by it, but rather becoming free and seeing the light in which it brings forth upon welcoming its message.
Monday, November 28, 2011
Making a Fool Out of Oneself!
It's the Thanksgiving holiday and everyone's together, you're wanting to get the attention of others, you're trying to put yourself out there so that you don't look like a wall flower for the holiday.
During times like this we can feel less important when there are so many around us, especially when we are viewing it from the eyes that everyone else has a family but me, everyone else has a job but me, everyone has children but me. When we start to look at things this way we are risking doing or saying something horrible.
When we sit down to the dinner table and see all the fine china, crystal, and silver we can begin to feel overwhelmed with what we are seeing and feeling. Suddenly we are looking for a way to become noticed, we say something inappropriate and humilitate someone in the family.
If the family member loves us enough to come and ask why we just did that we are lucky, lucky that they cared enough about us to find out why we are hurting so badly. Many have experienced this very scene where someone in the family just made a fool out of themselve.
But upon looking deeper into this we can ask this person what were they thinking the moment that they said what they did. At first they might say they just wanted to be able to add to the conversation, but dig deeper and you find what the subconscious mind really intended.
A young man was hurting inside because he felt that others were judging him so he quickly wanted to divert the attention from himself on to someone elses misfortune. But all this ever really does is make our own misfortune made more known to others.
How many times have you been at a party where everyone is getting along and laughing with and at each other only to have someone point out a flaw or habit of someone in the group and start laughing as if it was funny of this persons misfortune? That is a person that is in pain, they are projecting this pain outside of themselves for healing. They don't know any other way to do it.
Projections can be difficult, especially when we have validated our projection by making others think about another person the way we do, or getting people on our side that this person is really this way. This allows us to not look within to see where we are hiding our light. The shadow is external and the light is internal and eternal, but to find that means we must start looking at the flaws of others as our greatest gift to freedom.
Remember the person that you want to destroy the most and have the biggest charge against is your greatest angel. If you are unwilling to go deep within your soul to find freedom you will live chasing the light.
So be compassionate when you see someone being a wall flower at parties. They are a ticking time bomb waiting to errupt and they will do so on the person that befriends them the most.
Much gratitude to you all.
Love, Dr. V
During times like this we can feel less important when there are so many around us, especially when we are viewing it from the eyes that everyone else has a family but me, everyone else has a job but me, everyone has children but me. When we start to look at things this way we are risking doing or saying something horrible.
When we sit down to the dinner table and see all the fine china, crystal, and silver we can begin to feel overwhelmed with what we are seeing and feeling. Suddenly we are looking for a way to become noticed, we say something inappropriate and humilitate someone in the family.
If the family member loves us enough to come and ask why we just did that we are lucky, lucky that they cared enough about us to find out why we are hurting so badly. Many have experienced this very scene where someone in the family just made a fool out of themselve.
But upon looking deeper into this we can ask this person what were they thinking the moment that they said what they did. At first they might say they just wanted to be able to add to the conversation, but dig deeper and you find what the subconscious mind really intended.
A young man was hurting inside because he felt that others were judging him so he quickly wanted to divert the attention from himself on to someone elses misfortune. But all this ever really does is make our own misfortune made more known to others.
How many times have you been at a party where everyone is getting along and laughing with and at each other only to have someone point out a flaw or habit of someone in the group and start laughing as if it was funny of this persons misfortune? That is a person that is in pain, they are projecting this pain outside of themselves for healing. They don't know any other way to do it.
Projections can be difficult, especially when we have validated our projection by making others think about another person the way we do, or getting people on our side that this person is really this way. This allows us to not look within to see where we are hiding our light. The shadow is external and the light is internal and eternal, but to find that means we must start looking at the flaws of others as our greatest gift to freedom.
Remember the person that you want to destroy the most and have the biggest charge against is your greatest angel. If you are unwilling to go deep within your soul to find freedom you will live chasing the light.
So be compassionate when you see someone being a wall flower at parties. They are a ticking time bomb waiting to errupt and they will do so on the person that befriends them the most.
Much gratitude to you all.
Love, Dr. V
Monday, November 21, 2011
Pollyannism
How do you feel when something horrible is going on in your life and someone tells you that you just need to change your thoughts, or the way you think? How does it make you feel as you are in the midst of drama in your life, full of pain and confusion only for someone to tell you that you must have done something wrong in your life, or better yet that you are the one bringing this all on yourself? Remember as a child when your parents would tell you, "Well, you've brought this all on yourself"? It felt horrible didn't it? But not only that it leaves a person feeling as though they didn't get something right. This person may now spend the rest of their life correcting their wrongs instead of looking for the good in the situation.
Just as with pain we can ask ourselves, "What did I do wrong? What was I thinking that would have brought this much pain or discomfort to me?" What if this pain was to help us to learn something even more fascinating? What if it was there to teach us compassion, understanding, and that this world is created to experience all of it. What if pain also helps us to learn to be peaceful within the midst of that pain?
But there is a real danger that occurs with people that "think" they've got it, that all you have to do is "think" positive and that they know why pain has been created and why a person is experiencing the pain.
Pollyannism can actually empower the shadow and allow it to rise with more force.
That's right, having a positive attitude about everything all the time empowers the ego. It becomes empowered by making you think that your issues don't need to be look into or processed, but rather ignore it.
With HMLM we are not ignoring the issues but diving deep into them. We continue to process them until we are able to see HOW we've done this to ourselves and the golden nugget that resides in what we've hidden. The shadow doesn't want you to find these nuggets. It wants you to believe that you know better than everyone else by having all the answers. NO ONE HAS THE ANSWERS FOR ANOTHER, IT IS ALWAYS WITHIN THE SELF.
If you are one of these people that go around seeing all the reflections of other people without recognizing that this is YOU, then your ego is experiencing pollyannism by making you think that your life is positive but everyone else is screwed. STOP IT!
No matter what we do in this life we are to have compassion for one another. It matters not what another person did in a past life, what matters is the compassion we share with each other in this one. It matters not what you think another person wronged you in, but rather how you have wronged yourself by hiding out within the shadows.
There are many people that love to teach HMLM because they literally have fallen victim to the ego to use this against themselves. Higher Mind, Lower Mind allows the individual to see clearly and to gain clarity. Teaching it so they can use it on another person instead of learning from it for themselves only allows them to fall further into their own deep sleep.
There is nothing wrong with being positive, but there is a real danger in ignoring what doesn't appear to be so positive. You surely would not go into the burn unit of a hospital and start telling patients, "Oh, look on the bright side", the bright side they may not discover until years later, but it is for them to wake up. Telling someone to look at the bright side will sometimes make them run and hide, especially if you are telling them they are 100% responsible for the creation. Who would want to create that kind of situation?
All bridges have to be crossed with care. All bridges and transitions are fragile and can become weak if there is anything testing or threatening the foundation. We do not want to shatter another persons foundation just because our egos have become so huge that we have lost the self within the shadows.
It's always amazing to me to see clients that get HMLM and then turn it quickly on to another person. They have forgotten their own projection. It's amazing to me to see how deeply they will go within the illusion as well because now their whole life has become one big shadow. They are fighting with themselves.
Upon reading this if you found yourself sniffing in through one nostril then your ego is reacting to what you are reading. We've all seen it, we've all heard it. A person gets information that they think they are beyond and they sniff in like, "Well". Almost like a huff but taking air in instead of out, but it can go both ways.
Remember when dealing with people you are dealing with yourself. Be kind, compassionate, following the heart in what to say and do. When dealing with the shadows of ourselves it's okay to be firm. But remember, Jesus never said go away, he said, "Satan, get behind thee".
Something to think about!
Enjoy!
Dr. Velvete
Just as with pain we can ask ourselves, "What did I do wrong? What was I thinking that would have brought this much pain or discomfort to me?" What if this pain was to help us to learn something even more fascinating? What if it was there to teach us compassion, understanding, and that this world is created to experience all of it. What if pain also helps us to learn to be peaceful within the midst of that pain?
But there is a real danger that occurs with people that "think" they've got it, that all you have to do is "think" positive and that they know why pain has been created and why a person is experiencing the pain.
Pollyannism can actually empower the shadow and allow it to rise with more force.
That's right, having a positive attitude about everything all the time empowers the ego. It becomes empowered by making you think that your issues don't need to be look into or processed, but rather ignore it.
With HMLM we are not ignoring the issues but diving deep into them. We continue to process them until we are able to see HOW we've done this to ourselves and the golden nugget that resides in what we've hidden. The shadow doesn't want you to find these nuggets. It wants you to believe that you know better than everyone else by having all the answers. NO ONE HAS THE ANSWERS FOR ANOTHER, IT IS ALWAYS WITHIN THE SELF.
If you are one of these people that go around seeing all the reflections of other people without recognizing that this is YOU, then your ego is experiencing pollyannism by making you think that your life is positive but everyone else is screwed. STOP IT!
No matter what we do in this life we are to have compassion for one another. It matters not what another person did in a past life, what matters is the compassion we share with each other in this one. It matters not what you think another person wronged you in, but rather how you have wronged yourself by hiding out within the shadows.
There are many people that love to teach HMLM because they literally have fallen victim to the ego to use this against themselves. Higher Mind, Lower Mind allows the individual to see clearly and to gain clarity. Teaching it so they can use it on another person instead of learning from it for themselves only allows them to fall further into their own deep sleep.
There is nothing wrong with being positive, but there is a real danger in ignoring what doesn't appear to be so positive. You surely would not go into the burn unit of a hospital and start telling patients, "Oh, look on the bright side", the bright side they may not discover until years later, but it is for them to wake up. Telling someone to look at the bright side will sometimes make them run and hide, especially if you are telling them they are 100% responsible for the creation. Who would want to create that kind of situation?
All bridges have to be crossed with care. All bridges and transitions are fragile and can become weak if there is anything testing or threatening the foundation. We do not want to shatter another persons foundation just because our egos have become so huge that we have lost the self within the shadows.
It's always amazing to me to see clients that get HMLM and then turn it quickly on to another person. They have forgotten their own projection. It's amazing to me to see how deeply they will go within the illusion as well because now their whole life has become one big shadow. They are fighting with themselves.
Upon reading this if you found yourself sniffing in through one nostril then your ego is reacting to what you are reading. We've all seen it, we've all heard it. A person gets information that they think they are beyond and they sniff in like, "Well". Almost like a huff but taking air in instead of out, but it can go both ways.
Remember when dealing with people you are dealing with yourself. Be kind, compassionate, following the heart in what to say and do. When dealing with the shadows of ourselves it's okay to be firm. But remember, Jesus never said go away, he said, "Satan, get behind thee".
Something to think about!
Enjoy!
Dr. Velvete
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