It's the Thanksgiving holiday and everyone's together, you're wanting to get the attention of others, you're trying to put yourself out there so that you don't look like a wall flower for the holiday.
During times like this we can feel less important when there are so many around us, especially when we are viewing it from the eyes that everyone else has a family but me, everyone else has a job but me, everyone has children but me. When we start to look at things this way we are risking doing or saying something horrible.
When we sit down to the dinner table and see all the fine china, crystal, and silver we can begin to feel overwhelmed with what we are seeing and feeling. Suddenly we are looking for a way to become noticed, we say something inappropriate and humilitate someone in the family.
If the family member loves us enough to come and ask why we just did that we are lucky, lucky that they cared enough about us to find out why we are hurting so badly. Many have experienced this very scene where someone in the family just made a fool out of themselve.
But upon looking deeper into this we can ask this person what were they thinking the moment that they said what they did. At first they might say they just wanted to be able to add to the conversation, but dig deeper and you find what the subconscious mind really intended.
A young man was hurting inside because he felt that others were judging him so he quickly wanted to divert the attention from himself on to someone elses misfortune. But all this ever really does is make our own misfortune made more known to others.
How many times have you been at a party where everyone is getting along and laughing with and at each other only to have someone point out a flaw or habit of someone in the group and start laughing as if it was funny of this persons misfortune? That is a person that is in pain, they are projecting this pain outside of themselves for healing. They don't know any other way to do it.
Projections can be difficult, especially when we have validated our projection by making others think about another person the way we do, or getting people on our side that this person is really this way. This allows us to not look within to see where we are hiding our light. The shadow is external and the light is internal and eternal, but to find that means we must start looking at the flaws of others as our greatest gift to freedom.
Remember the person that you want to destroy the most and have the biggest charge against is your greatest angel. If you are unwilling to go deep within your soul to find freedom you will live chasing the light.
So be compassionate when you see someone being a wall flower at parties. They are a ticking time bomb waiting to errupt and they will do so on the person that befriends them the most.
Much gratitude to you all.
Love, Dr. V
Awareness opens the possibility for Alignment and the Willingness to Release. Free yourself of illusions within YOUR reality. What are you creating that makes you feel disempowered?
