151 Days of 400 "Attachments"

Today we will begin moving on to "Attachments" as promised. Awareness was a pretty cool experience and I hope that you are keeping you eyes open for what you need to be aware of.

Attachments are those tricky little guys that no one wants to admit they have. However, this is only a dis-service to us when we avoid our attachments because it can manipulate itself in every event, situation or circumstance in our life.

So how do we begin to recognize attachments? I will provide them here:

Do you find yourself not being able to release people?
Do you find it hard to move forward when someone tells you no or to move on?
Do you find it difficult to listen to other people when they feel something is off about you?
Do you find it difficult to accept when someone says "I don't see this working for us" or do you cling to wanting an answer?
Do you hear what people are saying but not taking responsibility for your own fears, health and healing?

It's okay to want an answer but the problem comes in when you feel so emotional about it that you no longer are able to be kind to the individual, feel resentful, or feel that you have just been a victim of something. Remember what we say....NO ONE DOES ANYTHING TO YOU!

When I was in my thirty's my mom wanted me to come to NY to help her in a cafe that she just opened. I was raising 2 children as a single parent and held a supervisor position in one of the largest Spine clinics in the US. I told her yes and began the process of selling my furniture, giving notice and packing up everything I owned.


The night before I was to leave I called my mother to tell her that I was packed but that I couldn't sell all of my stuff. Out of the blue my mother informs me that she doesn't want me to come up there. I said to her, "Mom, what do you mean you don't need me any more? I gave up my job for you!" She said, "You're a smart girl you'll figure it out."

I could hear the thunder in the sky that night as I fell to my knees asking God why did this just happen. Of course there was no storm. But I fell to my knees and I screamed out to God "Why did you do this to me?" The whole house shook. I ran to the kids bedroom where I found them playing a board game quietly. I asked them if they heard the boom and they replied no.

I knew then that God was letting me know that there was a purpose behind what was happening and that I needed to settle down and trust Him. The next morning I called my friend that just took over my job and she said that she would talk to the manager and let her know that she would step down. And here is what happened. The manager told my friend that I had better places to be and that I had more important things to do in life and needed to proceed with those. It was like a knife and a treat all at the same time.

During the next few days I witnessed God working within my life. It was effortless and easy but I had to stay non-attached. I had made a promise to Him that I completely trusted everything He was doing for me. This whole situation brought me here to Texas and has helped me to become the person I am today. I would never take that moment back for what I've gained from it. My mother and I laugh about it today and see it all as a blessing. And she said to me, "I don't even know why I told you not to come up, I just felt that's what I was suppose to do."

All people in our lives are vessels for God and the Cosmic to direct and guide us to where we are suppose to be, if we just listen. This whole situation was the first lesson in my attachments of security, knowledge, the knowing, and FEAR. I was holding on to what I knew to be security out of fear and lack of trust.

I have a very dear friend in Rockwall that is a massage therapist and there have been many times we've wanted to go into business together. Each time we have we have received a sign that it was not to happen. I will never forget the time we were going to open up a clinic in a small house and I had a dream that we were going to have problems. So on the way to work I asked Spirit to give me one more sign. Well I got it.....on a country road I got a speeding ticket. There is never any Highway Patrol out where I live, but this particular morning there was. I had to smile at the officer because I knew I had received my sign. I blessed that ticket that day, just let me tell you. I called my friend immediately and I shared with her my experiences.

People, this is what she said to me....."Oh, Velvete....trust yourself. We don't need to get into something that is not going to be right for us. And if God is telling us not to do this then there is a reason and we should listen." My original thought was that she was going to be upset and try to tell me that it would all work out and lets just keep moving forward with it. However, we both were staying non attached and listening to our guidance system.

A few years ago I had a young lady working for me and all the signs were there that she should not be working for me. She was sweet, told me she was my friend, told me that she could see I was over worked and stressed, she knew that I needed someone to take over...blah, blah, blah....People, this person robbed me blind. She was trying, and did a good job, to make me feel guilty in the fact that she was not fitting in with our organization. It was nothing against her....she just wasn't what we needed. However, I did need her. I learned just the other day the blessing she taught me and it's this.

If you continue to attach yourself to people that feel needy, depressed, clinging to life and do not want to take responsibility for their own enlightenment they will rob you of your energy. Money is only energy! So I blessed her for this most important lesson she taught me and sent her my love for playing what appeared at the time the villan role.

My mom has played the villan, this employee played the villan, x's have played the villan....but truly we have only asked them to play these roles for our enlightenment and growth.

So the next time you feel the need to tell someone I don't doubt my abilities because of what you've done to me....step back and look at what you are attached to. Is it the person and what they mean to you, is it what they have or where they are in their lives? Is it that you feel that by being near them that you will receive all of their hard work through osmosis? Or is it your own fear that you won't and can't make this journey on your own? We all have support! No one is ever alone.

Anytime that we allow an "Individual" to bring doubt to our minds, then we must look within to see why we have given this role to this individual to play in our lives for us. What awareness are they helping us with? What attachment are we trying to resolve? What needs to be released? And what fear are we clinging to!

Belief Statement: I trust myself and the decision that I make and feel responsible that this is what is best for me and everyone involved. I gain confusion when people are hateful and try to flip it on me while losing focus.

Spirit Statement: I am trusting and confident in my responsibility for myself with awarness that all people are loving while receiving focus.

After I did this process I could see clearly that when we try to flip a situation on to another person it's because we lack the love needed to receive this information which takes (or knocks) us out of the flow decreasing our ability to receive or have focus. And this lack of love comes from within, not outside of us.

We may have another situation for attachments come up today or tomorrow and if we do we will proceed. However, if not then we will continue with "Willingness". This truly can be the key to all that allows flow.

Until then, Enjoy!
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