Pain, Part DO!

Pain, part "do" is about taking responsibility for the pain that we are doing, literally we cause our own pain. But how and why?

Sometimes pain is so bad we just want to pass out. All we think about is the pain that we are feeling. We could care less in healing it, we just want it to go away.

It's extremely important to look deeper in to the pain rather than just ignoring it. Sure, take your pain medicine, but don't forget how you got where you are right now taking that medicine.

Let's take an example that might help, and I'll use myself as an example.

Since November last year I had been battling this tooth pain, it would come and go and I would process it, the pain would go away, but then it would come back. Finally it wasn't going away and had to have the tooth filled. Of course I was able to do this without medication and the pain did go away.

But then the tooth pain started coming back. I tried to figure out when it started and I could see that it was always when I could not make a decision in my life. What decision was I having to make though, what was so important that I needed to wake up by the pain?

Honestly I had to research the tooth and I wrote down everything that it meant to me, what it meant symbolically. Interesting enough indecisiveness was one of the root causes to tooth pain, but also bitting off more than we could chew. Both of these hit home for me. I have done both of these things and with a number of people pointing it out to me as well.

Okay, so we need to stop right here for a moment and make something very clear. There are some that get very confused about reflections and feel that when people give them advice that it's for them to throw it back to the giver. This is not true. If we believe we are all one then the person giving you the information is you. Why do you think that so many people will cut people out of their lives? It's because they don't like what is coming back to them. This doesn't mean we become a doormat but what it does mean is turn the other cheek and see how you are doing this as well. One of the greatest friends I will ever have on this planet was the best reflection for me. I learned a lot from him and was able to advance spiritually. It wasn't for me to "make" him advance spiritually, that was his choice not to see the mirror, but what we have to remember is that when we open our minds we give permission for others to do the same. It's not up to us to save anyone, or even point out another faults, when you have a friend doing this to you it can be overwhelming to say the least, but important for you to know what that feels like so you are more compassionate.

With that said, it's important now to understand how to proceed in processing pain. Write down the meanings and then put it into a statement. For me I figured that my need to bite off more than I could chew was to prove to others that I could do it. I needed approval. Then the indecisiveness was because I would get so overwhelmed with my choices that I would just shut down. I wanted responsibility, I wanted choice, I wanted it all but couldn't handle the idea of actually knowing what to do with it all. Have any of you been there and done that? Of course you have, we all have.

There are people that do this and become so paralized by their options that they don't do anything. They can't they are scared stiff.

With all of this said something else interesting happened while processing this. I realized that much of my problem was not being able to speak what I wanted. You see we all fear doing this because we are truly afraid in getting what we "really" asked for. What we are all really asking for are lessons. We don't want lessons, we want pleasure. The hell with learning something I just want to do and be something. Well, it's through this learning that you have the God given ability to expand and be everything you ever dreamed of.

When you know what you want you go for it, when you don't know what you want you hesitate, we all do it. When I knew what I wanted I just let God know this is what I needed or wanted and it would happen. But when I was or became indecisive was only because my ego stepped in about what lesson I would be learning today.

So the part "do" in this equation is to do your part in understanding all the signs and the origination of the pain. None of us are immune to it. Even Christ while on the cross cried out in pain, and it was through the ability to shed his tears of pain that people became extremely compassionate for what was happening. Give yourself space to be compassionate with yourself and allow the tears to flow.

Sure, while dealing with the real pain of it all it might be difficult to process it, but pick it up after the pain is dulled a little. Allow yourself to heal.

Enjoy,Velvete