There are those that watch everyone else....waiting for them to mess up, waiting for them to not do something, waiting for them to walk into the trap. These are the people that project their own misery and suffering on to others from their own lack of self confidence.
It is when one doubts in their own abilities and what God is providing that they can not trust or have confidence in another. What difference would it make to the one watching whether the person does or doesn't do what they are 'suppose' to do? Who is in control?
That said, control is control....when you find yourself stressing out with what is, and working within the boundaries of that then you are out of control. There are many that hide there control issues by using others as their outlet.
What do we do with control freaks? Nothing, they destroy themselves.
Enjoy,
Velvete