When Others Push Your Swing

Has anyone ever told you that they were happy for you only to hear them talking about you behind your back? Have you ever had a person give you that, "Well that's so nice for you, but you better be quite because if you talk about this out loud someone will rob you of your experience"?

There is a difference in heart felt joy for another person and their success, and then there is the pretend joy that folks will display while all along are envious, jealous or angry. But this is okay, let them push your swing.

Just as we can push our own pendulum one way or another so can another push it for us. The push works against them and "for" the person they are pushing against. So say for instance someone comes up to you and tells you the good that's happening in their life. You are nice and tell them that you are happy for them only to go home and wonder why them and not you. This little thought keeps you out of arms reach of what is right in front of you. You are the one robbing yourself of your own power. And that power that is being pushed away by you is helping another in the direction further into success, power, and happiness, while keeping you swinging your pendulum the other way.

If you are wishing bad on another person because you are jealous, angry, or envious in anyway, you are helping to push their swing more into the positive for them without them even knowing it. They are already happy, they are already using their own power, and they are already happy to share what they know with others in order for others to enjoy the same. However, some may not be as receptive because they either think they know it all, think they can do it better than the person that's experiencing joy and enlightenment in their life, or that they are just so bitter that it's not happening for them that they totally block their own blessings. When a person blocks their ability to receive that is when they are pushing. They have to! It's like mom asking you if you want mash potatoes for dinner and you don't want them, you're going to "push" them away.

When we push things away from ourselves there is always someone there to receive. The person that is already receptive and willing will not meet the energy with resistance and the energy will be accepted and used quickly. This pushes their swing without effort and without resistance. Now they are able to experience a nice steady flow, not to fast, hard, or high. It's like it's a constant rhythm of creative movement.

Now there are those that are genuine about their love and excitement for another and their successes in life. You know these people because they celebrate with you, they're not the ones telling you to be quiet, but rather sharing your story with others. The person telling you to be quiet is the one pushing your swing for you because now their own greed and competition with you is assisting the push. Why not celebrate? Why not scream it at the top of the mountain?

We should all be joining in celebration for each others wins, accomplishments and the ability to be in integrity. We should all welcome every opportunity and reflection coming back to us the job we are doing inside ourselves.

I personally want people to share their success stories with me because I know there is no one else out there. That each person that shares with me their wins I know God is letting me know of my own wins. I don't feel competitive with another person when it comes to what they know or don't know, but rather I take it as a deeper reflection of the respect I have for myself.

I used to be a swing pusher. When someone would come to me and tell me how they didn't have the life they wanted I would immediately try to give them all the tools and keys I could in order to assist them in their desires. I quickly learned this was a big waste of time because many only wanted to complain about their life, not take responsibility for it. But the biggest lesson I received was this, each time I believed they didn't have the skills, gifts and the abilities that I possessed I was allowing them to push me into chaos and confusion.

I quickly learned that everyone is perfect right where they are. It was only those that believed this about themselves as well that were open and receptive. The people that knew they were strong could do one process and see the miracle happen in their own life. It was only the people that believed they lacked a key or tool that held resentment for my success or the success of others in their lives.

People, you need to check in with your own heart. When you tell someone you are happy for them are you really feeling disappointment and pain? Are you wondering what makes them so special? Are you doubting yourself and your own abilities? Are you still searching over and over and over again for something knew that's just going to be the big bang for you? Or are you trying to prove to everyone you can do it, that you can be successful?

Think about it for a moment how high your pendulum must be in order to continue this kind of thinking. So the further away you get in believing in yourself the further your pendulum must go in order to validate your belief about yourself or others. One day your pendulum will be so far one direction or another that you will not even be able to recognize the beginning.

It was always interesting to me when a customer or client would get really upset at me and scream, "I'm going to tell everyone about you and you won't be in business long" how business would always pick up and people would come in pleased with what I was doing. This is an example of that pendulum. But we must also be wise in how we respond with others swinging us. Is it out of love and understanding, or greed and resentment?

Again, these feelings cannot be lied about. They will be real and you will be able to feel them. If you lie to yourself about how you really feel about someone else and their success you will only continue to push your success further away from you until you are able to appreciate and receive.

Well folks, right now my Fluffer, Buffer is in my arms, it's 1 A.M. and I think this is enough for now. Think about it today how you might have wondered why someone else experienced growth in their life and how you felt. Be honest with yourself in whether you felt a little envious or jealous. It's not until you are real with yourself that you'll be able to swing you own swing and make it a pleasant ride.

Enjoy!
Dr. Velvete