Mother, Maiden, Crone

During this beautiful Mother's Day weekend I have taken a moment to reflect on the meaning of the roles we play in our lives as women. As we look at these roles we will look at them in the order in which they are written being Mother, Maiden, Crone.

As a mother we all have felt the heartache when our little ones are spreading their wings so that one day they are able to fly through life on their own. As mothers we do the best we can to prepare them for their future by giving them a good root system. There are mothers that believe they are doing what is best for their child even when they are harming the child, this is an extreme in helping the child to learn to avoid pain. This is a mother living out of fear, fear that her child will some day experience trauma in his/her life. Then you have the mother hen, the mother that protects her little chicks by blocking any negativity in the childs life or forces that might cause the little one harm. Each of these mothering types could be broken down further into the maiden and crone catagory. But for now we will stick to what lessons is a mother learning.

With that said, a mother is one that is getting to know herself through the eyes of her children. She is seeing what causes her pain what causes her joy, and what is causing her distance or togetherness. She is the young bird that brings her young food each and everyday that give her purpose and fulfillment. The mother is very fragile herself and takes care in not being trapped or caught in order to love and adore her little chicks. But the Mother is also learning something else. She is learning that whatever she resisted within herself regarding her own mother is now being reflected back to her from her own children. So if the Mother is still learning to say and honest yes and an honest no she is doomed to experience it again with her own children.

The Maiden, is always the daughter. The one to show the mother what she resisted in learning while she was a daughter herself. The maiden is strong and loyal to her role. She will protect another persons young, and even watch the nest while the mother of another searches for food. Here we have a woman that is strong and confident and is able to reflect back to others the truth in which they seek. Her guard is always one of loyality. She is a queen in waiting, a mother in waiting and is taking in all the information from the external world to grow, learn, and love. Even if you have children yourself we all have the Maiden stage in our lives. WE can't run from this stage because it is a very important one of finding out who we really are.

The Crone! The crone is one with many experiences under her belt. She has learned that losing a loved one is only a transition, that loving as many people as she could she learned much about herself, as well as those she hated. The crone is silent and watches as the mother tends to her young with an understanding and acceptance that things are the way they should be for the new mother to learn from her young. As she watches the maiden she does so with a firm hand in teaching the maiden never to cross her boundaries and to stay within integrity. It is through this integrity that both the mother and maiden learn just how important being honest with oneself really is. But the Crone is only able to teach this once she herself has been able to fulfill this very task. If a woman is unable to stay true to what is within her and speak what is within her with integrity then the Crone will never appear. There are many women that pass from this world without ever knowing the Crone. This is okay, we learn great lessons when we are able to say no when we mean no and yes when we mean yes.

As the Crone sits in her chair at night she captures the thoughts of the day and plays it out in her head of how she could have done better, what did she do right, what needed to be expanded on. She takes all of this within her own heart for her judgment on herself and the lessons she knows she continues to learn in silence. She is the wise one that knows that the mother and the maiden all reside within her. That they are never separate but a constant for growth, harmony, joy, peace and love.

The Crone goes to sleep at night with a focused prayer that the light will always shine upon her and the mother and maiden within her. The Mother goes to sleep at night with the same prayer but only for your young, and the Maiden goes to sleep at night with prayers of wanting to be the Mother and the Crone one day.

The Crone is of service to others through being of service to what is within her heart, the joy that we are all connected and that all benefit from the same love, light and life. The Mother is of service to her children without realizing they are helping her to be of service to herself through her pain, joy, love, and anger. The Maiden is of service to herself which helps her to become the strong, confident loyal person for all involved as she learns to speak her truth without causing pain to another.

We are all the Crone, Maiden and Mother. We are all experiencing the divine essence of these aspects each and every moment of our waking days. Some of us move from Mother to Crone and once we are their we are stable. Others may have to experience going back and forth between all three until they find their voice. This voice will not be one of greed but acceptance, this voice will not be one of harm, but rather supportive, and this voice will not be one of harm, but rather of love.

If you are a woman reading this you have a mother, if you are mother reading this you have a daughter and a mother, and if you are a daughter reading this you have mother and grandmother (crone). All of which are reflections of the soul within you. Love them all no matter how difficult it is because in doing so you are loving yourself.

Love, Velvete