Giving Freely Without Attachments

As I awaken early this morning with God on my mind and within my heart I pondered the question, "How does one give freely when money is still required as an exchange here on Earth?" The beautiful response I got empowered me to the point to wear laying in bed was not going to be an option. I had to get up, drink my water, breathe my deep breaths, shower, dress and meditate on this very response.

Giving without attachments doesn't mean we just start giving our stuff away, or our services away for free. This usually returns to us in hurt feelings or the need to be validated. One really should not give anything away until they are absolutely ready to do so; this helps to ensure the person is complete with the attachment. Giving freely means to be able to give the same amount of love to each and every person on the face of this earth. When you are able to do this you are moving into more love and will have more love to give.

Giving services away for free without an agreement ahead of time in how this will work, will only set up more attachments. So say for instance I have a client that became really ill after completing a biofeedback, my offer to them is to come in the very next day to complete any work that might have been left undone, and to allow us other possibilities together of what's going on. Now of course it is always of their choice whether they wish to do this or not, and most of them take me up on it. But if I continued to insist that they come see me then I am no longer giving freely but with attachments.

We've all done it. We've given money to someone and then when they don't treat up special we become resentful of them. But is it really about them? Of course not, because now you gave something to someone in hopes for more love, more acceptance, more whatever. Because if you had truly given it freely then there would be no hurt.

What about those that say, "I set clear boundaries and tell them they have to pay me back. I expect this money to be paid back to me and with interest." Oh, it will be, trust me. Nothing goes unnoticed in God's world. Look at it this way, here we have someone that feels they've helped another out, (myself included in this example) LOL...I'm my greatest teacher. But say that they have an underlying need to show someone else, I'm better than you, I have more money than you, I can do this and you can't. If the giving was done out of love then their would be no hurt, no pain and no need to pay the money back.

What's even funnier is when I have totally released that the money needed to be paid back, I was doublely paid back. I know that's probably not a word but it is now. All the money I've given in my life in hopes to be appreciated, to be loved, to be worthy enough of someones grace, to be this or that, to prove this or that. But all that was beneath the surface was my own greed and power to dominate and control. I became the best manipulator that ever was. You bet. I had mastered the game. And then of course I had to set it up that I would need to lack money myself in order to make them feel really, really bad about not paying me back. LOL

This is a wonderful life, isn't it? So giving freely means without attachments. If you can't give it freely away and have nothing to gain or lose from it then you are clear enough to know that is without attachment. This goes for every thing. Just ask a woman why she isn't wanted to give sex to her husband and they will tell you most of the time is because they are not getting something in return. Ask a man why he doesn't just freely give conversation to his wife and he'll probably tell you, "What's the point? She's always turning it around on me and making it about me." So here are two great examples of how we do that.

Well, I've got a class this morning so need to run. But please keep it in your heart today that every person you meet is God, whether you like it or not. We are all in this sea of consciousness together, so might as well enjoy it. Learn what your brother is trying to teach you about yourself.

Much Love, V