Missing Opportunities

I have had many missed opportunities in my life when it has come to finances, business and relationships, I think we all have. For me it wasn't so obvious that I was missing out on anything. I mean I had the clientele, I had the money, I had plenty of education and know how, but what was I miss? What was I missing that made this feel more non-enjoyable than enjoyable for me?

I worked in pediatrics as a patient assistance while obtaining my nursing degree. During my employment there I tried to give people hope, hope isn't what they wanted. They wanted attention, not attention, they wanted to die, not die, they wanted, wanted, wanted. After my son almost died of spinal menigitest I quit and started my career with children.

I thought, "I could give these kids a really good start by being the person that impresses and inspires them at a very early age." In the public school system there are kickbacks that schools receive from students who have been abused at home, these were my students. As they began to improve at home and at school of course the school became upset and it wasn't long before I decided to go a different route in inspiring others.

My next degree was Early Childhood. I was so good at it that I was quickly promoted to inspire and teach other teachers how to perfect their child/parent relationship within the classroom. This only led to more teachers hating me because I was now holding them to a higher standard of work. The comments I received were, "We only make $3.5/hour, there is no way that I'm going to do anything other than babysit." Well you can only image the difficulty thereafter which such attitudes.

After discovering that some teachers only wanted a paycheck and could care less about how they inspired children I knew I needed to move on yet again. So X-ray was my next step. Why? Because I figured if I couldn't inspire I could ground myself in just learning more about the body. I loved it. As a Spinal Specialist I loved the nurses, the staff, the children and more. X-ray took me from North Caroline all the way to Texas. Again, climbing the inspiration ladder I new was in charge of 15 states in the Southeastern part of the U.S.. With so much responsibility there was little time for inspiration because the demands became more about company demands rather than personal relationships with our homes or our staff members. With illness within every part of my body I left there I went on to massage school. It was here that I found my heart, my passion and my love for people.

Now, with massage I expected people to come in not feeling well. It excited me to be able to help them feel better when they left. I also expected them to come back on a regular basis in order to maintain the integrity of the body, mind and spirit. The business grew overnight, I couldn't keep up and had to hire more people. Some were willing to be there for the client, others only a paycheck.

Because of the demands of success I wanted to run. So I ran by buying a little health food store with a massage practice inside it. It wasn't long before this business was more than I could handle and hiring people were a necessity. Growing my leaps and bounds I once again found myself in front of people day and night, I grew tired and weary of them. I wanted out!

I got out and took a little break, only to open another health food store and clinic within one year of selling the first health food store. Again, within weeks I had more biofeedback clients than I knew what to do with. I never advertised, it was as if God said, "Here you go." Again the business grew and I grew tired.

But what was I growing tired of? It wasn't until recently that I have begun to understand what I was tired of. I was tired of the contrast. You see when we are in a business to help others, someone has to be either sick, hurt, needy, stupid, or other. I mean come on, if you're a make-up specialist and everyone walked around and knew how to do their makeup there would be no need for you. The same is true for doctors. If everyone took care of themselves and knew how to do this then there would be no need for doctors.

Being a holistic health care provider there is an element of understanding between the client and therapist responsibility. However, if everyone is responsible and doing what is right with there health, again there is no need for someone like me.

No matter what you are doing, we've have to create people of the opposite in order to fulfill a need, an experience, an adventure, exchange of money and more. You see, I was upset because I thought everyone lack understanding, it was only me that lacked it.

I couldn't find myself happy in the experience because I wanted everyone to change, be responsible, know, grow, and more. And all along they were being of service to me in providing me an opportunity to do all of those things and more.

I don't judge the clients I work with now because I know to do so shuts down my ability to help them, to learn the facts, and to assist in my growth. I mean hell, if everyone would learn about relationships I'd be out of a job really quick. If everyone knew how to write their own wills, there would be no need for me.

God has been so kind in giving me a way to exchange energy with what I know with people who don't know and get paid well for it. I mean can you ask for anything better.

So stop and think about what you want from people and then look at how it would affect you if they stopped being that way. What would you do for a living? What would you do with the knowledge that you have?

Can you imagine a doctor screaming his/her head off about sick people all the time? Kind of silly isn't it? He makes his money because people are willing to be sick.

Interesting when you think about it that way isn't it.

Hope everyone is having a great day and enjoying this beautiful weather.

As always, ENJOY!
Dr. Velvete