It still amazes me how life syncs up and how all signs and symbols work toward the whole of our being. I mean when I think about it all it just blows my mind. When my husband is having an issue with a particular person or group of people that it really is something that even I should be looking at. It might not be the same as he's getting it but it's still for my purpose to.
There are many of us, I'm guilty of it to, that still want to divide ourselves from what are spouses are doing because we feel it has nothing to do with us. That they are playing their own ball game and whatever issues arise for them so be it. I am beginning to realize just how connected a husband and wife really are when it comes to healing and the role they play for each other. It's not something that can be resisted either because you will always have people around you, so whether you are married or not this still applies.
As we went to bed last night I physically wrote down my list of things that I'd like to see differently in my life. I saw my husband with his eyes closed and I asked him, "Aren't you going to make your list?" Then I get the famous reply, "Yes, it's in my head." I quickly said my peace about how he doesn't take responsibility for his own healing and doesn't stick to his studies the way he should. Of course he fell asleep while I was still writing down my thoughts, but hey that would happen to anyone if you know me and my writing. Hahaha....
All dreams help us to see clues about ourselves that we refuse to see during the day when we are so distracted with life. And mostly it is because we are distracted and not that we intentionally are trying to avoid anything. Some of us might be but that's not up for discussion right now. But all of my dreams, even the ones I had when I went back to bed confirmed some very key points for me.
1. In order to heal I must be willing to let go of things that no longer serve me. (The dream was about going through broken toys. I wanted to throw the things away that were broken and other people there wanted to bag them up and store them. How many of us do this on a daily basis, store crap that is broken and is of no longer any use to us?)
This can mean relationships, people that you think you can fix, having people hang around you that are broken, and keeping things in your life that give you a sense of importance. How many times have you known people that wanted to be friends with others, knowing that they were not right for them energetically, but do it in order to feel better about themselves? We've all done it. We've all wanted to be friends with the poor kid or be friends with someone that we knew didn't quit fit in to our group. Why?
2. That healing is a private matter and that when you are ready to heal to give yourself some space and time to really cleanse and deal with the issues. (Here I'm in a bathroom and everyone is in there with me as I'm trying to go to the bathroom. LOL...who can deal with that kind of issue while people are watching. LOL Not good. So give yourself some time and space, get out in nature, get out of the normal rat race and close your door and give yourself all the time you need to rid your body of things that no longer serve you.)
3. That when we are ready, willing and able to take on the task of REALLY letting crap go that we are totally supported and loved and that there are no excuses. (Here a guy bought up a bunch of soap and toilet paper and said, "She doesn't have any excuses now." Funny when we think about it though, right? I mean do you know the number of people that are constipated in life? It's amazing the number of people that won't let go of their stuff.)
So I realized through this dream that what I have asked to be healed or resolved is just a matter of me getting rid of things that no longer serve me, they are taking up space and time, they are taking up energy in order to keep those beliefs in place.
It's funny because I only get allergies when I have people come into my life that are people who say they want healing, they want a different life but are so UNWILLING to really understand how their OWN actions have put them where they are. So I am better able to see now that when my allergies flare up it's because I'm unwilling to see this myself and need to pay attention. We've all seen people like this too, they want change but they are unwilling to take action. The single guy that wants to get married and settle down doesn't take action by getting out there and meeting single people.
Now getting back to hubby. What a wonderful man he is but like I said earlier I am able to learn from him what it is that he's unwilling to change in his own life that is reflecting into mine. So when we discussed why he had such an issue with a particular person in our life he blew up only to come crashing down. It was through his own realization of why he was resisting this person that he was able to see how he was doing this even within his own home. He realized that his house was now reflecting to him what he thought about regarding all relationships he was having. You see you don't have to have a dream to understand the relationship you are having with yourself.
Regarding what Dwayne is reflecting back to me there will come a day that I will make a choice of whether that is still something very real in my life or am I still holding on trying to fix someone? You see even in our marriages we have to be willing to ask ourselves those kinds of questions as well. Dwayne used to go around telling everyone that I would be the first to leave, he might be true. It will all be up to the alignment of truth and awareness. It will be the level of responsibility we are willing to take as a couple or not as a couple.
People grow apart spiritually all the time, it's not right or wrong, good or bad, it just is what it is. None of us are being asked to give up our own growth in order for another person to feel better about themselves in the illusion in which they choose to live. Your partner can continue to teach you valuable lessons about yourself, but if you are staying with them in order to save them then look again....You're being told to save yourself.
So how are my allergies today? Not a single sign of them today. I realize that I have all the tools necessary in order to bring this change about within myself and that is what I'm going to continue to do. The main one being to remember not be on a search and rescue team but rather appreciate and accept everyone for right where they are. When they are ready for change they will do it. Sometimes people have to suffer a whole lot before they are willing to step out in to the unknown, but then they'll see that the unknown was always there with open and loving arms. But until then it's my own unknown that I should concern myself with not anyone else.
Your dreams are an important part of you. Paying attention to them allows us to heal and to learn what is necessary in order to grow. So live the dream.
Love, Velvete
Awareness opens the possibility for Alignment and the Willingness to Release. Free yourself of illusions within YOUR reality. What are you creating that makes you feel disempowered?
