In the Middle

As we move through our processes and shifts in our lives there are times that we just feel we're right in the middle. In this middle space it can feel lonely and full all at the same time. It can feel that you are losing a friend while gaining a friend.

What makes the 7 Step Process work? Why was it brought into being at this very moment in time?

When we were given the transmission for the 7 steps it was because people were getting ahead of themselves. They were saying all the right things and thinking they were doing all the rights things to liberate their minds. But when we look at all the right things to day without noticing what is right in front of us, which is our biggest clue of how well we're doing at this then we're missing the mark. Sure we can do all kinds of work, there's nothing wrong or right about it. But then we were also given this information for those that were right in the middle. That spot that didn't feel real any more.

Spiritual practices are not about running away from what we see but understanding that what we are seeing is a direct reflection of what is going on inside of us. Let me give some practical examples.

Say for instance someone is blowing their horn at you and has just cut you off. Now many of us might say, "Idiot, didn't he see me here?", or we might say, "He must have had a hard day." Either way we say it is still a reflection of something from within. It's not until we have the "TRUE" ability to not have any response to the car that we have freed ourselves. Why? Because now we are not asking ourselves any questions about the man outside of us.

Many of us are going to know this through the way we feel. We all have feelings whether we are aware of them or not. Because deep down everything we do is a direct reflection of how we feel. So if we cut someone off intentional it's because there is a story with anger, pain, or self-righteousness in there. If we don't go out and visit people then there is a story of pain, anger, fear, and/or more. Even the person that is driven to succeed could be doing so out of fear or love story.

So now we get to thoughts. You see the thoughts are the story chapters. They are what make a person move about in their lives doing what they do. So say I have a thought, "I need to prove to my parents that I'm successful", now all of my events regarding my success have an agenda, but this agenda is one of fear or it could be different for different folks. When we put down our stories and just live our lives there is a flow about it.

What we gain from our stories are vast. There are so many reasons to hang on to the story because it's helping us to hold our illusional self in place. And that is why so many folks will refuse any kind of spiritual work that deals with reflections, or taking responsibility for what is being reflected out there.

Then we have our loses, again they are reasons to be who we are. But until they are investigated we have no idea what we are doing to ourselves.

So when you do processes, no matter what type of process it is it's worth investigating why you want to put yourself to sleep. Keeping an open mind to the whole process is so sweet.

Who are the best clients? The people who don't have a clue! Those that have been studying a while, they think they know all the right answers, they want to answer the spiritual way, they want to show you that they know they are creating their drama and pain. Well if you've created it then uncreate it. Uncreate it by becoming real with yourself first in what you see around you in your life. How are you ever going to get out if you can't see what's right in front of you?

This information was to be kept simple and easy for people to use so that when they followed the process that clarity would easily happen. We watched this with so many of our clients. We watched clients that didn't know what was going on but knew they were feeling better. We had some clients that took on the 7-Steps and started working in their own lives and others. Then we had some that resisted the hell out of it. They were set on believing nothing other than that people are mean, judgmental, and full of self love.

We were told to stop writing when we did so that it would be a weekend read for folks. It was never meant to be a book that would take several months to get through because the information would be readily available within just one day.

All things are created for our good. All situations are an opportunity to love, learn and grow. If you can't love yourself then how are you going to be able to love another, if you can learn for yourself how are others going to teach you, if you don't want to grow then how are you ever, ever, ever going to know your expansiviness.

So for those of you that refuse to use the 7 Steps that's okay. I completely understand, been there done that. But what has happened in my life is it has opened doors to show me just how deep my story went. I'll give you an example of something that I remember when we first started the process.

Situation: Whenever I think about closing down the store
Feeling: I feel like a failure and worthless
Thought: I wonder what people are going to think of me
Gaining: I'm gaining confusion with fear
Lose: Confidence, time, money and energy

Belief Statement: Whenever I think about closing down the store I feel like a failure and worthless. I wonder what people are going to think of me. I'm confused and fearful while losing confidence, time, money and energy.

We can see how all these little parts made up this belief that now I carried around with me. I carried it around like an extention of myself. And there is no peace in this. There is no joy thinking about this all the time. Having this belief was dragging me down and now being reflective in my life in so many ways. And that's where we get real with how the outside world becomes our greatest tool.

People get lost on the flipping it though so let me have a moment. The flip is like the reflections that come into your eyes, everything is upside down. I am not this belief statement but the belief statement was making me feel this was real. When I take on any belief now it affects what is coming into my belief radar. What I mean by that is now I have to have this belief supported. But I need to see my opposite in order to see the light. The reality of it is is always the light, love, life.

Now I did close down the store that this was referring to and no one thought anything of me. No one really cared. However I did get some folks say, "Oh, good I'm glad to be back on this side of the clinic it just feels better." The truth is it wasn't up to how anyone else felt about what I was doing. I was playing! It was my money not anyone elses. If someone wanted me to stay open then they could give me the money to do so.

It was really funny this whole situation and a great learning tool for me too. Because people would come into that store and tell me the story of how the town doesn't support local businesses and that they come and go so quickly. Was that me talking to me or did I buy the belief? Was that me telling myself outside of myself what I believed? What matters is they were right, so that means I believed that some where within me. The town did not support that little gift shop until the we had a going out of business sale, then everyone showed up. It wasn't up to me what they thought. They are on their own journey of self realization in all that they do. It's not even up to me to show them the way, I just need to be my own way. And I get this from the world around me.

So the flip and spirit statment was this:

Whenever I think about closing down the store I feel like a failure and worthless. I wonder what people are going to think of me. I'm confused and fearful while losing confidence, time, money and energy.

Spirit statement: I now close the store and feel successful and worthy. I know people are going to teach me that I am confident and loving with confidence now flowing.

You see anytime that we are doing something for someone out of fear then there is a belief that can be investigated. Anytime we do anything out of fear, regret, anger, or other is usually going to have a short lasting result.

I'll tell you why I opened this business too. My friends that know me will laugh. I had a friend at the time that was unemployed. I just had an aunt that died and had all these crafts and such that we brought home. I told my husband that we could open up a craft/gift shop and give our friend a job while selling this stuff. We were on fire. We got started on it while we were on the road. My friend loved the idea even though I could feel reservation in her voice.

After we got back and we already had everything moving she shared with me that she didn't want to work for me. She made an excuse that it was because she didn't want to ruin our friendship. Which was nice. But the truth of it was this person didn't want to work at all.

But the reality is what I did, not what she did. I was in someone elses business. I was trying to employee someone else. I can't begin to tell you how many times I've started a business so that I could employee others and give others a job only to be left disappointed in how people did everything they could to get out of working. And when you are running several businesses at one time people not showing up for work is not good. No matter who you are.

So again, I processed it. Because it's all my stuff anyway. I had to get real with me. The reality is, it was always me that needed to be some place else. It was always me that needed to work some place else, it was always me that didn't want to be here. I like living in this town and I've met some wonderful people, but this town makes you learn how to bust loose from your illusion. How? It puts you right in the pit of hell.

To do this process, you have to be willing (just as the book says) to investigate how you feel, what your thinking, what is it that you see you are gaining and what you are losing and then see how your belief is working for you. Now let's do a fun one.

Belief Statement: I am looking forward to a brand new job and feel peaceful. I know that through this possibility that I gain the connections and peace while losing nothing.

Spirit Statement: I am renewed and peaceful. I know all possibilities are connections with peace in everything.

Enjoy your day.